It may be stressful to always have doors open for others, but talking to past friendships/relationships usually shows us how much we’ve grown and we learn from it. I’ve come to realize that the ones reaching out usually tends to be the ones that need help the most. They’re just afraid to ask. I’ve been told I’ve been missed and I’ve been asked for second chances among many other things. But the greatest ones of all are handwritten letters, texts, and phone calls like the one from Thursday being told I’ve changed their lives for the better without even knowing it. For most of them, a future was just a distant dream, but they got the help they needed and seeing them all on successful paths makes my heart hurt in a good way.
Sometimes our bond is closer the second time around and we actually stay in each others’ lives. But sometimes, we fall back apart and that’s okay too. Periodic check ups show we were meant to be in each others’ lives again – even if for a split second. As long as I know they’re okay, that’s all that matters. And as long as I know they’re happy, I’m happy. I cherish these people a lot because it’s always hard to initiate first contact after being apart for so long. Sometimes I’ve reached out, but sometimes it was others. It is a little awkward at first, but we get past that because when two people really care about one another, they will always look for ways to make it work, no matter how hard it is.
If you constantly reach out and you don’t get a response, learn to walk away. It doesn’t mean that you’ve give up on the friendship/relationship or that they mean nothing to you anymore. It doesn’t mean that you’ve closed the door or that you’ve stopped caring. It just means you’re tired of not being important enough. And no one should ever make you feel that way. Someone who wants you in their lives will make an effort to do so. If they don’t want to work to keep you in their lives, it won’t change, no matter what you do. Maybe they’re going through things you know nothing about and the time just isn’t right for them to gravitate back to you. Or maybe they’re not meant to be in your lives anymore. But when the time is right, you’ll feel the pull again and you or the other will reach out. If they’re meant to be in your life, they’ll come back around. If they care enough, they’ll find a way to make it work. No matter what. And when they do, don’t shut them out because they did.
Always remember that your behavior decides who stays in your life.
People can only reach out so many times.
So make an effort if you’re ever willing to stay in theirs,
Because no one can read your mind.
